accordance with Islamic teachings, the status that is given after Almighty Allah
and His Rasool (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) is that of parents.
one's parents are pleased with him or her, then that person has gained the Pleasure
of Almighty Allah and His Rasool (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam). The Pleasure
of Almighty Allah and His Rasool (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) can never be gained
if one's parents are displeased. It is the duty of every child to serve his or
her parents and be kind to them. They can do this by not showing disrespect and
causing pain to them. The Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) has stated that
a disobedient child will not enter Jannat. To look at your parents with love will
gain you the Sawaab of Hajj. It is also stated that "Jannat lies under the
feet of your mother" and that the father is the "gate to Jannat".
In a Hadith it is stated that a certain Sahabi was commanded by his parents to
divorce his wife. When he relayed this message to Huzoor (sallal laahu alaihi
wasallam), the Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) advised him to follow his
is an accepted fact that one may always have a wife and a child, but parents only
come once. We should ponder over the fact that if it had not been for our parents,
where would we be? A child can never repay or fulfill the right of his or her
must be noted that the status of the mother is very exalted. The Ulema have written
that if the son is engaged in Nafil Salaah and if his mother calls to him, then
he should adhere to her call and present himself before her.
the demise of one's parents, be sure to visit their graves. Make Esaale Sawaab
and distribute Khayraat and Sadaqa on their behalf. To show respect and kindness
to the friends and family of your parents is also part of your duty towards them.
Just as you respect your parents, the respect and obedience for your Peer-e-Tariqah
and Ulema-e-Deen is also important. The Haqq of the Deeni Ustaad even supersedes
that of parents. Thus, always respect your religious teacher. Also respect your
father- and mother-in-law since they are like your parents. The woman should be
more dutiful to her in-laws that to her own parents. By doing so she will gain
benefits in this world and in the Hereafter.
asked the Prophet Mohammad PBUH, "Who has the greater right over children,
the mother or the father?"
Prophet Mohammad PBUH, "Who has
the greater right over children, the answered, "The mother's right is greater
than the father's." He was asked three times, and each time the answer was
The fourth time, Prophet Mohammad PBUH, "Who has the greater
right over children, the said, "The father's right is next."
do you give the mother three rights to the father's one?"
Mohammad PBUH, "Who has the greater right over children, the replied, "Your
mother carried you for nine months in her womb, than gave you birth. After that
she gave up her sleep for your sleep, suckled you, carried you in her arms, and
years she cooked for you, fed you, and served you food. She did your laundry.
When you were forty, fifty, sixty, she still followed your progress with interest.
Your father sowed you in your mother's womb, provided your food, and made
sure you had clothes to wear. Can this be compared with your mother's role?"
The questioner went on, "Well, I wonder if I could ever repay my mother
for all the help and service, however much I might do for her?
Mohammad PBUH, "Who has the greater right over children, the replied, "You
could not repay so much as one night's due
"But suppose I carry
my mother on my back for years, clean up after her, cook for her, and feed her.
Suppose I attend to those same services as long as she may live?"
will still be this difference between you: your mother looked out for you to live,
while you are waiting for her to die."
Don't Send Artificial Loves to your Mother and Father. Give them the respect and
courtesy they desire. They are your most precious Treasure, Care for them.
God Forbid, if they leave this world then one can do nothing but regret.
take some one for granted ,Hold every person Close to your Heart because you might
wake up one day and realize that you have lost a diamond while you were too busy
collecting stones." Remember this always in life.